He left me once for a week about year and some ago and came back. The pain is so deep. I dont mean telling the kids the gory details cuz that would only hurt them but when they ask you can certainly say some high level stuff. I have examined my heart and mind, and I love him purely and truly. I hope youve found yourself a good therapist and now take great care of yourself. Thank you for your kind comment. Type 2: they manipulate knowingly and enjoy it. My story is a little different I THINK. How about narcs vs. normals? DONT FALL FOR IT! Stay strong and stay No Contact. Plus, women are by nature, more seductive then men. When i have had a daughter it would break my heart when she lives here life besides a N. As an extension of this SuperGod.. Where my precious daughter with so much giving love and trying. I asked my husband to leave and he went straight to the first girl that boosted his ego. He has tried everything to stop my return. This is not a means for them to get back to you at all. He could be very supportive and I joked that he was a woman whisperer a kind of guy that there was some reciprocity there he could listen just as well as he would talk. But I recovered it. He is always busy and when he is at a quitte time he feels the love sometimes. Our family had never fallen out until Dad died. Is he really done? It's just another narcissistic tactic for casting doubt, instilling anxiety, and retaining basic control over your emotions. She proceeded to tell me she has been fired from her job. He talked incessantly about everything..why people behave the way they do and how childhood impacts negative behaviors, blah blah. Even though its been 9 months, the fact that you reached out to him a week ago probably makes him think you still have hopes of reconciliation, so its quite possible that he could pop back onto the scene at some point in the future by virtue of your still trying to make contact after so long. When he gives me the feeling that i am ok . **************** -Overall disinterest in partners family and/or friends I sold my car flat and moved to the area that she lived. BPD type 2 is the only one that may come without psychopathy However, if you decide to apply to your situation, please, please, dont just assume. So ladies, women can be just as devestaing a Narcissist as a man can! So condescending. Also, relationship between the BPD and NPD. I read somewhere if they agreed to help, it would take over 10 years to truly fix, but because they think they are God or better than everyone else, they dont continue the sessions and the cycle continues. they were weeping for validation of their love), I decided their words and action no longer hold much weight. My take has always been that because he needs for everything to appear okay to make himself look good then of course he wants you to smile and act nice and be friends. Even though, I dont have time right now to go through RodMans comment, here are my thoughts. I said what is there to be scared of. A narcissist will always return to an ex-lover to ensure that his narcissistic supply still pines for him and that she never moves on from the pain he has caused her. So I fled to clear my head, get all the support legal and otherwise, and am now returning to finslise this. know who and what he is, and he knows I know the truth about him. He was a chubby boy with glasses who grew up to be a very handsome man. One we ALL have. The moment I would confront him, he would try to minimize the problem and it made me feel like I was the crazy one. I have a hard head and have struggled for years. Start standing up for your personal space and comfort. He was emotionally and verbally abuse telling me to shut up, the world would be a better place if I couldnt talk. I know its the hardest thing to do but let go. 1. Also, how can you move in with someone you have not had sex with? I caught him lying about another girl again, my best friend that hes living with he left me and went right to her house, Im assiming its not innocent like they say is it? The narcissist will assess the situation to see which direction they need to take to worm their way back into your life. More often then not, Narcissists are described by their partners as the "perfect man/woman.". Those were my last words to him. They avoid spending time with you, especially in public. Similarly, why wife was not diagnosed when she attended for counselling to over come childhood trauma? Before I learned about narcissism, I just couldnt understand his Jekkyl and Hyde behaviorIve been four months no contact, and he hasnt tried to contract me once, which hurts me a lot, even thought I should be happy. So, the satellite and internet services were in his name, when he left, I expected him to have it shut off especially since he left, he moved his new supply into a new house and the satellite tv company sent a email to our online account verifying the work order to install cable in their new house. after 3 month no contact this is what he said in a private message on FB: I miss jXXX (grandchild). I tried and tried and she blocked me out! he really believes he loves me. I wish it where not. Another something else etc. I renewed my revulsion to being the other woman then wrote the narcissist a polite note saying I was getting busy elsewhere, and thought a clean break was the best idea for me. He also allowed an ex (who lived in another country) to keep believing that she had a chance with him. It was all about her. thank you, how do I survive Narc mother convinced entire family including my kids I am no good since no contact with her I am very sad. So i tekst hey everything ok? Once youve forgotten and its safe for them to come out of hiding and re-establish the previous illusion of them they think you have, they return as though nothing happened but theyre wary of you now just in case you saw what was behind the mask. Anonymous, hes not into anyone but himself. I seriously dont have any reason to hope my family or friends will return. I have a problem and I need help and Im willing to go through all the steps to make myself better..(probably unlikely but what if.. since shes not doing well financially and she might be hitting rock bottom pretty soon..if she hasnt alreadyidk..) She also smokes and takes valiums / adderrall and stuff like that which also contributes to her instability.plus some drinking.. Im proud to say it worked, i blocked her on social media, blocked her phone number and deleted her from my life, that was 6 months ago. And maybe he does love me, his own way; I believe he does. He then sulked and went silent and told me I was making a big mistake. Its only in a weak moment when he has some contact with his heart that he contacts you. Does that say something about us? Even if I do not go to prison or die, there is nothing to support my family and that nothing can be changed. Like what was said above, men are generally taught to remain strong and cover their feelings more often, which is why men dont post as much. In conclusion, it is clear that my ex narcissist has not contacted me since our breakup. but I have days where I feel hes driving by or just feel his presence sometimes. My heart does go out to all of us affected by these crazy makers. Hi Carole. Some are subtle, some are overt. Get out now!. The first year and half of the relationship he seemed kind enough. The irony! Buffled, apologies. He knows he is messed up and he apologized profusely for messing us up. After he hit me with the garbage, I guess I reacted with instinct and hit him. Im asking because I exposed mine and he has been silent for about 2 years. Regarding wanting to have an adult conversation and end things maturely, that typically doesnt happen. I told him that I was sick. When I broke up with him in Feb and he contacted me in May I finally told him what I thought of him. Of course, when I did not receive it, I gently began to inquire about it once a week or so in an amiable manner. Why torture yourself reading her posts and seeing photos of her with this other guy. And how do you tell someone that they may be dating a narc? It was one date and done, but I occasionally every blue moon thought of her and how she was doing these days. Im here to tell you the one wayhow to know if a narcissist is finished with you. Peace I wish you luck. But i swiftly reminded myself of why i went no-contact to begin with. For example, lets say that you were to use the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend for 30 days. Omg the i cant believe i put up with my ex narc for a year and a half..he was a classic..he was insane to believe i didnt see his games but in my boredom..low self esteem and yes my own insanity i stayed..but in a weird way im happy i went through it because i know what one is and it will never happen again..and i learned alot about myself in the process..he will be turning 59 this year..its going to suck dying alone . It was a problem when I found out that he and his friends have been flirting at work and outside work until the girl slowly detached from him as she fell in love with him. Once I started reading about it I was in shock. . The sex was the most wonderful thing Id ever experienced in my life. He needs to be seen as perfect a all times. I feel so much more calm and serene with him out of my life. Im in love with being your drug, your dagger, your suicide note. Present day he has come crying back to me wanting to work on things I have given in twice and found that after a couple weeks of my return his attempt to make things right dwindled and began to fall into the same pattern. The lies and the illusions never stop. If I didnt still have all his e-mails proving what I am saying then I would end up believing his bullshit and lies. I was married for 23 years, knew her for 25. Replies appreciated! Im not healed and am still trying to get my head around the fact our entire relationship was a lie. Thank you. She was indeed charming to me and loved her smile and her extroverted personality at the time(Im a bit introverted). He lies about the present, he tried to make me think I was crazy about the people he talked to. Get better at playing his game than he is. part of me doesnt want to do that because i want to see him coming in the event he tries something. Now i am going back to study and get a job and make new friends. 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